Shake off the losses and keep going

Ashley Biles Associate Editor

August 30, 2013

I have always been a firm believer that life is what you make of it and many of times it is our attitude which determines if it is going to be a good one or a bad one. That is not to say that a positive attitude will cure all of your problems and ensure that nothing dreadful ever happens to you; in fact I can nearly guarantee that something unpleasant will happen at some point in all of our lives. But what is important is not to lose sight of better days when things seem to be the darkest.

I consider myself to be a very blessed person and while I have had many ups and downs in my life, I have not had to experience the great misfortunes that many others have. However, that has never stopped me from complaining about the little things that do not seem to go exactly how I have planned out in my head. Lately, it has seemed in not only my own life, but just the world in which we live, that it is easier to focus on the negative rather than the positive and that is something I feel needs to change.

Keeping that thought in mind, I have decided to do my absolute best to look for the silver lining in every situation and most importantly to not get too discouraged on achieving the things I do want for myself. While I may not be a Pulitzer Prize winning author with a slew of novels under my belt and a mansion on some beach in the Caribbean, it could happen one day and in the mean time I still have plenty of good things going for me. Most importantly, I have a family that I enjoy spending time with and who loves me unconditionally (even when I am complaining), a handful of friends who I know I can count on and a job that I actually enjoy doing; which I know is more than most people can say.

As I was scrolling through my newsfeed on facebook the other day, I came across a post from a friend that really hammered these thoughts home for me. The post was something she found on a motivational website written by Ralph Martson and is called “Shake off the Loses.”

Shake off the losses

“To be a real winner, be a good loser. Your attitude and actions when things go wrong will determine how often things go right for you. Things will indeed go wrong. There is risk in every undertaking. The road to success is not a straight, paved freeway. It has many twists and turns, gaps, potholes and rough pavement. Anyone can be positive when things are going right. That’s no big accomplishment. The real key to success is to remain positively focused when things don’t go as you planned. Today will not be perfect. Your children will not be perfect. Your car will not always run. Your computer will crash. People will be rude to you. These things are part of living. The less time and effort you spend whining, complaining and being dismayed about them, the more time you have for positive, effective living. When you can shake off the losses and keep on going forward, then you’re a true winner.”

So, are you a true winner?